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clockOn my green business blog, I recently posted about time. It’s a touchy subject for many people who have developed habits that may be comfortable but may not be producing the results they desire. That includes me!

What makes up a day? 24 hours, 60 minute segments to use or throw away, or chunks of 20 minutes that can produce massive progress! This is one of my new strategies. I’m chunking tasks into 20 minute segments. If I need to make phone calls, I have the list of who to call, the reason for the call, the desired result from the call, and the specific action I’m seeking from the person I call prepared, so in case I get a voice mail recording, I’m still accomplishing my mission. If I get a real person, all is good. I’m more focused, I’m to the point and I’m moving forward with my goals.

This isn’t easy. It takes some planning. It is also making a big change in my own patterns. It is stepping out of my comfort zone, where traditionally I’ve worried about making other people comfortable, or not seeming pushy or aggressive, but hey, if you don’t ask for what you really want, how will you get it?!? In The 4-Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss, he shares how he makes time work for him. Part of my strategy is acknowledging that if I focus on what I want, I actually ask for what I want and get an answer. Then I’ll know and can move on. It’s OK when people say no. Then I can shift gears, reformat my strategy, find another way to get where I’m headed and move forward.

This year is all about stepping out of my comfort zone. This is how I’m approaching life these days. If I’m not uncomfortable, I haven’t stretched myself far enough. It’s scary most days. It’s rewarding every day. In my business, I believe in the Rework principles – there’s a better, faster, easier way. I’m focusing on what I really want, and how I want my life to be an adventure. Things could be simpler, but what fun would that be?!? I’m all about the Art of Non-Conformity and finding your voice in a noisy world! If you have some secrets about using time to create positive change, please share!

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Thank you, Paula Deen! Your recent acknowledgement that you are afflicted with not only Type-2 Diabetes but also the arrogance to use it to profit from your vast brand made me get real with myself. I HAD (note PAST TENSE) admired Paula’s ability to share delightfully unhealthy food in a fun and joyful manner. It gave me permission to enjoy said food while knowing that it was doing me no favors. Paula’s determination to freely share the wealth of artery clogging, heart attack inducing recipes from her television shows, her restaurants, her multitude of cookbooks and personal appearances gave the illusion that she was sharing her passion for taste and tradition.

How wrong we all were! Paula has not only lost my respect as a chef, a mother and a business person, but as a woman. She has purposefully and profitably used the past three years to manage her brand to willfully deceive her audience. While she was adjusting her diet, learning to live with her condition, she continued to promote a lifestyle and eating habits that she knew were harming the people who loved her. There were clues to this shift, as Paula appeared recently on Dr. Oz’s show, taking her traditional recipes and making them more healthy as a show segment. With her announcement this week promoting a diabetes drug, and even a questionable diabetes drug, INSTEAD of a clear and strong apology and reformatting of her recipes for better health, she has lost all credibility in my mind.

Paula’s lack of integrity was long noted by Anthony Bourdain of No Reservations. Earlier this week the ongoing feud between the two was ignited when after Paula’s announcement, Bourdain tweeted what’s pictured below.

While Anthony Bourdain and his No Reservations travel show have not been particular about showing his preference for meat and especially his passionate love of pork, he is the first to admit his high cholesterol levels are an ongoing concern and challenge for him.

So, as of today, I have unfollowed, unliked, and totally disconnected with Paula Deen, her brand, her sponsors and any associated connections. I will not be linking to her recipes, visiting her websites or watching her on TV, EVER!!! I am waging my own battle with health and weight loss and making better choices without the inclusion of drugs into the mix. Using drugs to overcome health conditions that are brought on by poor choices only delay the inevitable. If Paula has done me one favor, it is that today, I am free from continuing on a self destructive path. I’m choosing to live a long and healthy life, without Paula Deen and without diabetes as long as I can.

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These are challenging times. Not news to any of us but how we each deal with daily challenges is very different. There are some business people in my circles who are so stressed out that they can barely finish a sentence without some prediction of gloom and doom. In my personal circles of friends and family, some are experiencing health problems and other issues related to unemployment, lack of insurance, housing struggles and some even struggle to put gas in the vehicle.

Yet there is another group of people who I treasure, and these are the people who I’m spending more and more time with these days. The people I’m talking about are the ones who, no matter what the situation is, are the ones who learn, face fear and challenges, maintain a positive outlook and overcome adversity to succeed. They are the beacons to follow, the visionaries who are able to accept that change is a constant. No matter where you are in this moment, you will not be there forever. It is their attitude towards life that moves them forward.

While I know how difficult it is to move forward with no promise of success, the other option is not an option for me. If you have a strategy you use to get you through tough times, please share it here. 2012 is set to be a year of intensity, full of change! I’m all for sharing how to survive and thrive together!

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Japan EarthquakeIn the wake of the horrible earthquake and tsunamis this week, I had what Oprah would call an “Ah-ha” moment. It is more important than ever that we come together as humanity in all areas of living. This morning there is a group I’m connected to, and I strongly support, who are holding a peaceful parade demonstration in Fort Myers Beach, Florida.  They have gathered to promote the same idea, that we really are One Human Family. It’s not a difficult concept to embrace. You only have to acknowledge that we all are only skin and bones, blood and brains, heart and soul.

What has moved me to write this post is that there are competing efforts trying to cause fear and distrust among us. Now, I’m not saying that there aren’t bad people out there who will take an opportunity to do bad things on purpose. They are more plentiful than I would like. I’m specifically talking about people who are focused on creating the emotion of fear to guide our daily thoughts and actions.

One example is the 2012 predictions of the world ending. I found this advertisement recently for the 2012 Survival Guide. I don’t know if it’s true or not ~ it doesn’t matter. It probably wouldn’t hurt to follow some of the advice in the guide. Living in a rural community, you never know when the electric will go out or the well will go bad or a multitude of other things that can happen. Being prepared is always a good thing. If you live in an urban or suburban community, there’s still things that can and do go wrong and being prepared to live a few hours or even days without creature comforts like water and power on demand may be a good thing.

The other side of that coin is that I’m not prepared to live waiting for the sky to fall, Henny Penny… I have faith that as One Human Family, we are all connected and when times get tough, we look out for each other. I’ve lived though times of struggle and times of reward and no matter where I’ve been on the ride of life, there are people there with me who support me and are there to celebrate with me.

So, how are you prepared for challenging times? Who is around you that can support you and you support them in times of physical or emotional challenge? Have you said thank you recently to someone who was there for you in the past? I’ll be sending this post to a few people in my network who I truly appreciate. It matters when you reach out and touch someone’s life. Make each moment count!

UPDATE: other people are thinking about this too… Here’s Jamie Lee Curtis post on Huffington Post

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womanOn this day 100 years ago, the first International Women’s Day was celebrated.

“Following the decision agreed at Copenhagen in 1911, International Women’s Day (IWD) was honoured the first time in Austria, Denmark, Germany and Switzerland on 19 March. More than one million women and men attended IWD rallies campaigning for women’s rights to work, vote, be trained, to hold public office and end discrimination. However less than a week later on 25 March, the tragic ‘Triangle Fire’ in New York City took the lives of more than 140 working women, most of them Italian and Jewish immigrants. This disastrous event drew significant attention to working conditions and labour legislation in the United States that became a focus of subsequent International Women’s Day events.”

from the website http://www.internationalwomensday.com

My grandmother was born in 1906. She grew up during the difficult years of women’s sufferage, two World Wars and the Great Depression. Her family lived in New York City when she was young and she told stories of the livery stables her father owned. She would ride with him to deliver blocks of ice to the first iceboxes in New York’s famous walkups, carrying heavy ice blocks up flights of stairs to well populated apartments in the heat of summer and the cold of winter. After graduating from high school, she went to work in New York’s garment district, working as a secretary and bookkeeper for a hat maker. These were tough times and getting ahead meant working hard and sticking with it.

Fast forward to today’s International Women’s Day and we’re in similar times. Our global economic situation forces women to be creative, think and act strategically to get ahead, and to never quit. It is only the determination of women that has continued to move society forward, providing children, families and communities the support, leadership and action to accomplish great things.

In my grandmother’s things, I found the following treasure… I share it here in hopes that you, dear reader, will share it with others.

Don’t Quit

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sign,
When care is pressing you down a bit ~
Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a fellow turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out.
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow ~
You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is ‘nearer than
It seems to a faint and faltering man;
Often the struggler has given up
When he might have captured the victor’s cup;
And he learned too late when the night came down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out ~
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems afar;
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit, ~
It’s when things seem worst that you mustn’t quit.

Author Unknown

*** image thanks to http://vintageholidaycrafts.com/free-vintage-clip-art-people-around-the-world/ ***

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It’s 2011 and no, I don’t have any resolutions to share. Time matches on and I’m sticking to what works now and will continue to work for me in the future.

I’m going to share a few things that have consistently made a difference in my life. The first is something that has come back into style, something I never walked away from, even when it was frowned upon. Curious?

I’m a 3rd generation coupon user! Not only do I use coupons regularly, I also save proofs of purchase for promotional products. (My annual Christmas tree has beautiful Campbells Kids blown glass ornaments and white satin cats from Fancy Feast.) I have a coupon envelop filled with coupons on products that I use, ready for when an item goes on sale.

On the weeks when I’m doing major grocery shopping, I’ll load my store card with paperless coupons. I make a list (TIP ~ ALWAYS make a list, you WILL SAVE $$$!) and organize my paper coupons. I average 20-30% savings on each trip. It’s worth picking up the Sunday paper to get the coupons, and I usually donate unused coupons to a senior center or another charity (and I recycle the paper as packing for shipping Ebay purchases).

The second thing I want to share is that I’m an avid supporter of consignment shops, again, something I’ve always done. When I was young, my parents divorced and my mom had to be creative to stretch our family budget. We would shop in consignment shops for clothes, toys and other household items. It was like a treasure hunt! It was also one of the first ways I learned about giving back. When my sister and I got tired of a toy or outgrew an item of clothing, we would donate it. We knew someone else like us would benefit, along with the consignment shop organization, usually a hospital at that time.

Today, consignment shops are an important part of my frugal lifestyle, the closer to home the better! I like shopping in local consignment shops for fashion trends, bargains and home furnishings. I donate to Goodwill to support their efforts to provide employment, recycle and reuse. I receive a tax deduction and I shop in the stores for craft supplies, gently used clothing and home décor. Plus, I’m back in my childhood on the treasure hunt, it’s FUN!

Lastly, I wanted to share something that looks to be an important trend in 2011, which is attitude. I’ve been accused of being eternally optimistic, sometimes to a fault. Life is not perfect, but if you decide each day is a gift, you will find the blessing in each challenge. My life is full of challenges right now. Every day, my choice is to make the most of the challenges and the blessings and make something wonderful from the mix, always maintaining a positive attitude. It doesn’t always work out how I would like. Sometimes things fall into place BETTER than I had ever imagined!

I’d love to hear how your 2011 is evolving so far. Comment, email me or share your thoughts with me on Facebook, Twitter or Linked In.

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I’ve been busy clearing the moving clutter, clearing the store inventory boxes and such and had to get out of the house this past weekend.  My son and I visited with my good friend, Jill Freeman and her family in Pennsylvania first. We went to the Saturday morning market in downtown Lancaster and had some bakery treats. Then we headed out to Lititz a few miles away, just for a little shopping therapy.

Sunday we headed to the beach to see my mom and so Josh could go surf fishing. It’s a completely different thing than fresh water fishing and he loves it. Late Monday night he caught a large skate, which was a big deal and a good fish story for him to tell.

Tuesday morning, I got up early, had my coffee, packed the car and Josh even got up on his own, good kid that he is. My mom was having a few minutes with him over breakfast and I went out and walked the dog around the block. We rounded the corner to a favorite telephone pole and that was where we met Duke. He poked his head out from behind a house, looking for a friendly face, and there we were! He came right over, all 70+ pounds of him, ready to introduce himself to my 3.5 pound Squeak. No, up Squeak came, into my arms and we headed back to the house.

SqueakWell, Duke was persistent. He followed us down the street, into the yard and right up to the door. I put Squeak inside and proceeded to get to know Duke. He had no collar, was well fed and very friendly, even got some kisses!!! I walked him around the block on our little leash, or should I say he walked me around the block… anyway, no people looking for a dog and no one around to recognize him.

At this point I should say that I grew up in this neighborhood, where in the summer, all is fun and sun and beach and friends and family. Then when it’s time to go home for the winter, people have been known to leave their pets behind. I was always finding dogs and cats and having to watch as they were driven away to their unknown ends. It wasn’t going to happen to Duke!

Josh sat with the big dog on my mom’s porch while we called the police. It just so happened that 10 minutes before someone had called about a missing dog with Duke’s description! They were in the driveway in a flash. Two women jumped from the car, full of adrenaline from the hunt of finding their love, their Duke! He was just as happy to see them. It was a good reunion.

But that wasn’t the end of the story… I had to get back to Virginia to vote before 7pm and I did it, at 6:50! It was important to me to do the right thing, which was first to care for the life of a beautiful animal that for whatever reason crossed my path that morning. The other right thing was to vote, to show my son that some days, no matter the challenge, no matter the obstacles, you stay the course and do what must be done. I’ve only missed a couple of mid-term elections, and never missed voting in the presidential elections. It’s important and I’m glad I made it.

Hope your election day was as fulfilling as mine.

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For anyone who may have missed me recently, I moved again. It seems like many people are moving these days. My move was because the property where I was living is being sold. Other people I know are moving to take new jobs, are selling their homes and some even losing their homes to foreclosure. It’s a time of change, spring seems to bring that on…

my guy

In my case, the move is temporary, just getting through until the end of the school year for my teenage son. This is his last year before high school in our area. Translation, this is the last year I’ll have his attention as a child before he transmutes into his next phase. Parents, you know what I mean!

So, after school gets out, he and I are going on the road. We’ll be visiting people we have missed and places we have not been for a while. Going to see my Mom at the Jersey shore is the first stop. We also have planned a visit to Graceland in Memphis, Tennessee. I believe it’s a right of passage to pay homage to The King. There’s talk of mining for gold and other treasures, fishing at a variety of spots as yet only seen on TV and in magazines, and spending time outdoors, on the road, together.

Does this sound selfish? Sometimes I think it does, but most of the time as I anticipate the months to come, I think this is one of the smartest choices I’ve ever made. Time is short and time with those you love is always way too short. Travel has been a great teacher for me, exposing ideas and lifestyles and cultures I had never imagined, most times completely by surprise. I want to share that sense of exploration and adventure with my son and watch as he is surprised by what life has to offer.

I’m making some big shifts between now and when we leave on our adventure in June. The “stuff” that has followed me is being shed, sold, donated and stored. Only the bare, naked minimum will be packed for this road trip. I’ll probably go through some withdrawals, and have some free time on my hands that I used to spend looking for stuff in the stuff (mostly paper and Ebay inventory LOL) but it’s a good process, letting go. The real challenge will be not to collect more stuff on the road!

If you have a good road story, please share! I’ll be posting more as preparations continue… today, be present!

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A few years ago, I faxed my resignation in to the office where I worked.  It was that bad! I already owned my own business in addition to my job.  No, I wasn’t making a killing but I knew the cut in income was worth the mental anquish I had been experiencing.  When you reach that point, you know something has to change.

Here we are, three years later.  I’m finally involved in several businesses where I’m passionate, understand the value of each mission and the impact of the work.  Each day there’s a goal, a sense of urgency and a return on the investment of my time and effort.  I love what I do!

Can you say you love what you do?  It doesn’t matter what you do, whether you have your own business or you work for someone else, do you love your day?  It makes a difference and if you can’t say you do, you need to find what it is that makes you love your day.

Jonathan Fields detailed his adventures finding what he loves to do in his book Career Renegade: How to Make a Great Living Doing What You Love released in January.  Jonathan has lived through all he suggests to his readers.  “Very often, the more entrenched you are in your current path, the harder it is to convince yourself that you’ll be okay doing something else,” he says. From finding your passion to changing your expectations to learning new media, Jonathan provides some keys to unlock a new future to those seeking a life change.

It’s not simple, but Jonathan suggests “If you know where you want to go, but don’t believe you can get there, you won’t act.  And, without action, there is no accomplishment.”  My experience proves this statement true, and I’m happy to say that taking action can lead to great things!  If you’re looking for some guidance, I strongly recommend reading Jonathan’s “Career Renegade” strategies, which made a difference for him and has made a difference for me as well.

Truth is some days you will love more than others.  I guage how much I love each day by how much I’ve given, how much effort I’ve invested, how I’ve shared knowledge with others, learned something new myself, generated a greater level of revenue or expanded my community or network. Most days I love a lot, because I get better at it every day.  Your criteria may be different but the sooner you decide how you create days you love, the happier you will be.

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